When we were young children, having insecurities about yourself are nonexistent. Over time, as we get older, we’re exposed more frequently to the media and others’ opinions. There’s the standard of beauty, of success, of what’s desirable, and so on and so forth. But the beautiful thing is other people’s opinions on what the norm is doesn’t matter, all that matters is what you think. Competing with other people over silly things like who’s prettier, funnier, or better is just a waste of time. It’s more important to compete with yourself, to continuously become a better version of yourself. Here are some ways to gain more confidence in yourself.

Accept Yourself

There are some things about ourselves that we can’t always change, like the color of our natural hair, how tall we are, or the size of our feet, etc. To be truly confident, we must accept those things that we cannot change. Everyone’s meant to be different and if everyone was the same height or had the same hair color, life would be existentially boring. We look at ourselves more than anyone else does, which is why we pick apart ourselves more. It’ll take a little rewiring your thoughts to be more positive, but it’s crucial to learn to love those things about yourself.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Being in a situation that scares you shows a lot of about your character, and it forces you to grow at the same time. With each new experience, you’ll gain more confidence because you were faced with something that made you uncomfortable. Try doing something that scares you as much as possible. A lot of what holds us back in relationships and in success comes from a fear of the unknown. As the U.S. Navy Seals say it, “Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.”

Lift Others Up

Constantly competing and comparing yourself to others can cause you to have a negative outlook on life and about yourself. Start lifting others up around you, even if they’re people you feel you’re in competition with. Being more positive will actually help you to diffuse the competition and empower others up in the process.

Take Care of You

Gaining self-confidence can be hard if you feel tired, drained, or if you’re neglecting your overall health and wellness. Taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental health will allow you to feel the best you can. There are so many ways to practice self-care to feel more confident! If you want to feel and look healthier, find an exercise routine that you actually enjoy and makes you feel good about yourself. Our skin is the largest organ in our body and should be one of the things you take the time to focus on and care for. Solidify a skin care routine that includes vitamin c to brighten and a renewing retinoid to generate cell growth. The more you take care of yourself, the more confident you’ll feel.